Author: Christina Libs

Year 7/50 playing hockey - in it for the long haul.

MGHA Combined Color Games & Challenge Camps – 2/2/2020 Sign Ups

On Sunday February 2nd, we acknowledge *some* MGHAers may choose to spectate another unnamed sport over playing the best sport there ever was.

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So, we are combining our level 1 and level 2 color teams into single MEGA teams for one night. The gameplay will still be the MGHA way – spirited, inclusive and safe!

Notes for signing yourself up

  1. All skaters can sign up for their color’s combined team AND/OR fill in elsewhere if a team doesn’t have enough players. This is a good time to meet MGHAers on other teams!
  2. Captains may recruit/make changes to keep balance, but should help keep the game focused on the MGHA-way… safe, fun, educational.
  3. Goalies first to sign up gets the slot, work with captains to set up a rotation if both goalies want to play.
  4. L2 Players – this is an opportunity to coach and practice playing inclusively and talk through strategy + skills while on the bench. Skate safely and with awareness of others’ abilities.
  5. L1 Players – this is an opportunity to experience slightly faster play and learn strategy in a different game setting. It may help you figure out what level you want to play in next year.
  6. Black Mirror and Avalanche Avengers – we’ve created 5 intermediate/advanced spots on your teams. Recruit folks to join your squad if you want!

Rink B / Advanced Scrimmage

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Rink B - Ugly Submarines vs. Cordon Monsters

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Rink B - Dumpster Devils vs Sacre Moon!

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Rink A / Avengers vs Mirrors

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Rink A / Easy Juice vs Wild Republic

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Rink A - Goalie Island, Uncle K8 +Smides + Shiny's Camp

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Contact Christina or another board member if you need to adjust website signups.

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MGHA Challenge Camp Night Sign Ups – Sunday, December 1st

All MGHA skaters are welcome to sign up for any/all time slots. Maximum skaters are listed on each individual sign up.

December 1st, MGHA Queer Agenda + Facebook Event

All Night Thanksgiving Potluck, led by Rainbow Kate in the Eagle’s Nest. 

Sign up to bring something – friends & fam encouraged to enjoy food and fandom from the Eagle’s Nest & Cap Ice with our MGHA Community!


Rink B 5:00 PM = 1/2 Juicy Warm Ups, 1/2 Goalie Island

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Leaders;Lord Bront, Libs, Laur



Rink B / 6:10 PM Advanced-Intermediate Scrimmage

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Rink B / 7:20 PM Beginner-Intermediate Scrimmage

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Rink B / 8:30 PM Intermediate Scrimmage

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Rink A / 6:30 PM Up North Camp

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Lead from afar; Shiny


Rink A / 7:40 PM Roller Camp

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Leaders; Gabby, Molly



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Rink A / 8:50 PM Spirit Camp

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Leaders; Greta , Sars


Thank you to everyone who is helping make this possible! Special shout outs to Rainbow Kate, Amanda Thornton, Patrick Farabaugh, Alan Silver, the camp leaders, and all of you who share the MGHA love this season.

Want to help teach hockey? Volunteer to bench coach!

New to MGHA this year, we will begin allowing bench coach volunteers to help coach players from the bench. Wild cool!

Read on for how to request to bench coach and other details of the program, outlined by your role.

All Players – we expect all bench coaches to have read the page below. If you think something is off, you can make a quick correction by giving feedback to the bench coach. Gentle reminders can come from anyone. And as always, code of conduct violations should be reported.

***You can always decline offers for advice and can talk with your captain or another league leader if you feel uncomfortable.***

Captains – read the page below as you may be contacted by a potential bench coach. You can always decline a bench coach’s offer. You can recruit bench coaches at any time.

Wannabe Bench Coaches – you must read and understand the page below before you offer to bench coach. If you have questions, please reach out and always work with captains on how to best assist their teams.

CLICK TO LEARN HOW MGHA BENCH COACHING WORKS

MGHA Preseason Spirit Tournament Winners & 2019-2020 Official Team Rosters Revealed

Congratulations to the winners of the first MGHA Preseason Spirit Tournament!

Goalies, volunteers, bakers, and dancers took the cake.

1,000,000 points to Brick for doing the worm in full goalie gear!
25,000 points to Alyssa for playing in 3 games and earning a shutout in the final game
10,000 points to Rraine for the best cake we’ve ever seen.
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10,000 points for all the trick/trotters

5,000 points to EVERY DANCE-OFF DANCER. This was a huge highlight and I hope we can collect the videos from our facebook group and share them on the website sometime soon.

Rainbow Kate Points

  • Vern – Book Hockey: new player took the initiative to come find me!
  • Alpha – Rink Rats: found me in Rink B!
  • Pop Magic: Molly’s cartwheel high-five and Christina’s best hug of the night!
  • Purgatory’s Peacemakers: coordinated team high-five train with introductions for the new people after, I am so proud of them.

Special shout out to the organizers, captains, and track leads for making this preseason fun and festivities happen this year. LOTS of time was spent and LOTS of spirit was exhibited.

The official team rosters for the 2019-2020 season!

These will be transferred into the teams/schedule portion of the website very soon, but until then see who’s on which team below.

L1 – Green Circle

OrangeRoyal
Amanda O’DonnellAZ Frederickson
Ben PalmerBrian Bischel
Bob GrabowEthan Hahn
Dexter LaneGracie Gilbert
Ian LeachJack Fait
James DanielsJoanna Fenner
Lindsay WilsonJohn Stephany
Lori PrechelLaur Rivera
Melinda FudeMatt Basler
Natalie MillerMeg Doll
Randi HagenNicole Engerman
Rraine NolanPaul Weisensel
Tori NothnagelPeyton Higgins
Zach SielaffTatiana
GreenWhite
TBDAmes
Allie BerenyiHunter Fultz
Amy FlansburgJane
Andy HumphreyKyle Peterson
Ann FreiwaldLeslee Spatola
Bryan ZarambaMaggie
Donna NeumannMaj Williams
Eric StankoMary Hitchcock
Greta LandisMichelle Watkins
Kortney PohlNick Raffa
Livi HarrisOlivia Cody
Quinn CrossleySarah Pisula
Rob KaletjaSuzanne
Robin FlickVic Barrett
Light BlueBlack
Alax KrajekAmanda Steimle
AlishaAngie Baker
Danielle HarrisErika Hansen
Elisabeth LexJames Barry
Halley PuckerJordan Hsu
Ingrid Starkeyk8 Walton
Jocie LuglioKaroliina Jarvi
Josh BodnarJackson Solomon
Kiki SchultzLiz Stadtmueller
McKennaMary Ann Feist
McKenzie ZeissReed Gardner
Paul WeberSean Hubbard
Tim TenderSpencer Micka
Trisha AdamusSteph Schwartzkopf
YellowRed
AustinAmanda Leonard
Douglas HaltinnerAsh Baldwin
Joy GanderChelsea Brodsky
Katie JayceEmma Carroll
Leah RudinJen Lawrence
Martha HansenJess Wreczycki
Micah DarlingJesse Westerman
Mitch PralleJim Voss
Monica WilsonMiriam Kunz
SmidesNat Carlston
Susan PschorrStephanie Cook
Tyler DeverneuilTina Pirius
Tyler SteffensenTru Sel
Tylor BegayVenessa Farn

L2 – Blue Square

GoldRed
Al SilverAndrew Kohrs
Alex StaatsAvery Cordingley
Amanda ThorntonBetsy Waller
Anton KapelaChris Rustoven
Brandon CampbellChuck McKain
Charlie SackettDavid Parter
Chris “Wally” WaltersJames Parens
Emily EngelKatrina Wolfe
Emily FeinsteinKevin Colelli
Gabby GrandinMaddy McKeown
Geoffrey GyriscoRyan Birdsall
Jacob ElaSara Colopy
Katy WerginzTony Jovenitti
Leif Backus
BlueCarolina Blue
Abby ChurchillAllyssa Long
Caleb “Clab” OakleyAmber Oberfell
Chris SwomleyAndrew “Alpha” Brausen
David HafnerBrian Fitzgerald
Jake WagnerCal Hughes
Lauren PeruccoDaniel Burkhardt
Matt BrausenIris Barrow
Matthew DorrisKatie Hurtis
Molly CostelloMark Nessel
Nick TrentadueRudy Zhao
Sarah Brick BirkholzScooter Clark-Smith
Stevie VennerSkye Zitkus
Vernon BeasleyTodd Streicher
Will Liederbach
GreenOrange
Anna CeyalaBrett Rojec
Brandon RoundsChristina Libs
Brenda SwensonDan Schwalbach
Diane MilliganJason Northouse
Eric WitteJoe Walsh
Gene ZadzilkaJoe Znidarsich
Jeff HorvathJohannes Wallman
Jill CohanMcKenna Legried
Justin SukupMelissa Crye
Mel PaugelNicholas Bartholomew
Patrick FarabaughRachel McElhenie
Ryan ZiltnerSarah Bottjen
Sherry HollySteven “Shiny” Magnuson
Vlad Brick

Randi Hagen – 2019 Essay

I’ve been with the league for several years, and I’ve had the option to write a “What Gay Hockey Means to Me” essay a few times now.  Each time, I declined – this community means the world to me, but I didn’t have a story that fit into a nicely packaged narrative. I am thoroughly hooked on hockey now and play in two leagues (thanks to the MGHA), and I served on the board for two years as a way to give back to the community that has given so much to me… but it still wasn’t quite enough to coax a story out of me.  I didn’t have any life-altering experiences that were worth writing about – that is, until this last season.

I joined the MGHA several years ago.  It wasn’t very dramatic, but it was actually an act of desperation.  I had no queer community. I had lived in Madison for upwards of 10 years and I knew virtually no one like me.  I looked in all of the circles I walked in – namely school, work, and gaming. I was still in the process of questioning my gender when I tried to find like-minded groups in college, but I didn’t feel “queer enough”, or that I fit in.  I had no luck at work – there was a fledgling queer community, but the power dynamics of the workplace made it uncomfortable enough that I couldn’t rely on it for support. The gaming community was out of the question – I am sure there were queers there, but I didn’t click well enough with the group as a whole to find anybody.

At one of the LGBTQIA+ meetings at work, Andrew Cox mentioned the MGHA.  I was not athletic, and I was not into sports or hockey, but I needed a community.  I was desperate. So I went to the website and filled out an application.

I didn’t get in.

That is to say, my application got lost.  Or something. Nobody reached out to me, and by the time I followed up with Andrew (who pointed me to the right people), it was too late.   The league was full, and they didn’t have space for me. Shit. I mean, I wasn’t heartbroken – “this is not the queer community you’re looking for” had become sort of a recurring theme by this point, so I figured I just needed to look elsewhere.

Fast forward a year, and little had changed.  My quest was still underway, and I’d made no progress.  On a Friday in late June of 2015, I had an email from Patrick Farabaugh.  “Are you still interested?”

Well, I haven’t had any luck elsewhere, so sure, why not, I’m still interested.  Let’s do this. How scary can it be? Turns out, REALLY SCARY. Do you have an anti-competitive streak a mile wide, a deep aversion to being aggressive, a crippling fear of being read as masculine, and haven’t exercised in years?  When you do, team sports are utterly terrifying. A month before the season started, I nearly quit the MGHA. What had I gotten myself into?? I needed a community, but did I really need it this badly? What if I didn’t get along with anybody, or I was awful at it, or if it was like all team sports I had tried in the past and I would end up going home crying each night?

Spoiler alert: I didn’t quit.  But I very nearly did. I convinced myself that I should try it for a little bit, and that I could bail if it turned out to be awful.  And, further spoiler alert: it wasn’t awful. In fact, it was wonderful. The league was a place where community came first and hockey came second.  I met so many wonderful, amazing, loving human beings. I couldn’t fathom how there were so many fantastic humans living in Madison right under my nose.  It was unbelievable.

Over the course of the next few years, I fell in love with the league.  Each year, I was placed on a new team which allowed me to make friends with a whole new group of humans.  My circle of friends grew, and the people who are closest to me in my life right now are people I met through playing hockey.  I joined the board as a way to give back. I have a lot of skills that come in handy when running a hockey league, apparently. I was helping make the MGHA a better place.

As things with hockey continued to get better, things in the rest of my life continued to get worse.  It was a litany of disasters with no end in sight. It culminated with the death of my son in March of 2018.  I was absolutely devastated. There’s no way to sugarcoat it – Einar’s death broke me. My grief led me to some very dark places, and as a result, at the beginning of this last season, I left my wife.  I put some clothes in my backpack, hopped on my motorcycle, and rode off into the wind.

The MGHA was wonderful, but I didn’t have a story that was worth writing an essay about.  Until now.

I couch-surfed for a month-and-a-half.  At times it was 7pm at night and I didn’t know where I was going to be sleeping that night.  I rode my motorcycle through the sun and through the rain. And when I crashed on couches, exhausted, with wet motorcycle gear, it was largely with people from the MGHA.  I had built this community for several years, and when I needed them the most, the people in this league Showed Up for me. They fed me, held me, kept me safe, and listened to me cry.  They took me out dancing for my birthday and defended my honor when it was impugned. They had long conversations with me about what healthy relationships look like and what you need to do to build and maintain them.   They talked with me on the phone as I sat on sidewalks in Madison, sobbing and broken. The people in this league stood by me as everything in my life fell apart.

After I settled into my own apartment and my mental health started to stabilize, I realized that my choice three years prior to join the MGHA – and my choice not to quit before it started – had been life-altering.  Without the emotional support my friends in the league gave me, I may have never realized I was unhappy in my marriage. The MGHA gave me the structure and support to build up the courage I needed to completely upend my life and leave a relationship that wasn’t working for me.  It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do, and I didn’t have to do it alone. This league is my chosen family, and they were there for me.

In the aftermath of my breakup, as the season began progressing last fall, I already knew – I was going to write an essay this year.  I finally had something worth saying.

Greta Landis – 2019 Essay

I’ve never really been an athlete. Even when I did participate in sports growing up, I never developed the competitive drive, the physical confidence, or the comfort and familiarity of being part of a team that I saw in the people around me. Sports to me felt a lot like church—something important and meaningful for other people that I just never quite figured out. I’ve always liked being active, and even liked being outside in the snow and ice, but it had never occurred to me put those things together into a sport. At least, not until gay hockey.

My first season playing ice hockey has had so many other firsts built into it. The Madison Gay Hockey Association is truly the first group I’ve been a part of that states explicitly: ask, appreciate, and learn from each other. From my first day in a room of excited, nervous new players, I heard, “don’t make assumptions.” Don’t assume what people know, how fast they are, what they like or what they don’t, what they want to be called, or whether or not they’re hurt. The MGHA is the first space I’ve been in where getting to know new people doesn’t require coming out through long-winded definitions or explanations, and where any configuration or structure or type of relationship is just that: a relationship. The MGHA was the first place where I’ve really been out about dating another woman, the first group where I’ve really felt valued as a beginner at a new sport, and the first time I’ve seen such tangible progress from week to week among players with such a wide range of experiences and skills. In every interaction, on the ice and off, on the hard days and the good ones, there is a genuine invitation to come as you are.

One of my favorite things about gay hockey isn’t actually on the ice at all, but in the stands. The amount of love and support from people who notice and appreciate each other’s improvement and wellbeing is unlike anything I have ever experienced. People I had never had a conversation with before would tell me how well my team played or how much my game had improved since the previous week. The stands are full of people who are eager to make each other feel welcome, ready at a moment’s notice to explain the game to hockey-illiterate friends or confused partners, and excited to support both their teammates and their competitors. I love the willingness to share stories, questions, compliments, and beers while watching the games, and love seeing those same familiar faces tucked underneath helmets and mouth guards on the ice.

Gay hockey, for me, means celebrating each other’s success. It means patience and progress, falling down (a lot), and getting stronger. It also means, it turns out, that I finally feel like an athlete.

Alisha McGuire – 2019 Essay

Why I play with MGHA. Let me start out with this:

The 2018-2019 season was my first season with MGHA (hey Nightfuries!) but I already feel like I’ve been in the league so much longer.

I met Claire Busse through work. We got talking about sports and she told me about playing hockey. She convinced me to sign up. I was waitlisted until the next season. Then, I got the email that I had a spot if I wanted it. Initially I was going in to hockey thinking it was going to be a great way to stay active in the rugby off season.  But before I took the ice for the first time I was sidelined by an injury. I wasn’t even able to even put my skates on. On top of the injury I was dealing with some pretty heavy personal issues. I sincerely considered dropping out of the league. I’m so glad I didn’t. I was immediately welcomed by my teammates on team reveal night. I really thought that writing this essay was going to be easy. It’s hard to put it in to words…MGHA has become the part of my family I didn’t know I was missing, that I didn’t know I needed. My teammates and captains made me feel safe and welcomed when that wasn’t how I was feeling walking in to Hartmeyer. I never questioned if I was being accepted for being exactly who I am by any of them. If you can’t tell I’m not the best at cohesive writing. #scatterbrained Remember that time I forgot my breezers, ran home, then proceeded to scored my first (and only I might add) goal? Patrick keeps saying he’s gonna hide them so I score more. It’s little stories like this that make MGHA home for me.

What does gay hockey mean to me? Family. Safety. Friends.

Reily Kirsch-Loredo

Luckily one of the first people I met when I moved to to Madison from South Carolina was Paul Weisensel.  He began playing hockey with MGHA in 2014 and he couldn’t stop talking about how much he loved it. He told me I should try it….I had never even been ice skating before, but he told me the league was inclusive of everyone no matter their identity, orientation, or ability/lack of ability to play hockey…even if you didn’t know how to ice skate.  I met some of the other MGHA players at FruitFest and they also shared the same enthusiasm about the league. I thought about joining but I wasn’t ready yet…

My identity to the world and who I was didn’t feel congruent because I lived most of my life in an environment where even if people “knew” you still didn’t talk about it.  I felt a lot of shame about who I was; even though I was was accepting of everyone else, I did not accept myself. I felt like I lived in two different worlds, I wasn’t out around most people and then when I was around my friends who knew I could be myself.

I have played with the MGHA league for 3 seasons now and the league has been a huge part of helping me have confidence to be myself. MGHA is a hockey league where your teammates cheer to encourage you when you have the puck, even if everyone knows you hardly know how to skate and you can hardly hear the cheering over your own thoughts trying to remember everything you learned about skating with the puck! That encouragement made me want to keep playing and never give up.

For the first time, I found a safe place I could be myself. Unlike the rest of the world, MGHA is a place where you sincerely don’t have to fit in to any box to fit in.  And other than the form you fill out when you sign up for MGHA (which they use to improve the recruiting process) no one ever asks you what box(es) you fit in to. I’ve done a lot of growing along the way, I no longer feel shame for who I am. As cheesy as it sounds, I found myself and a lot of really awesome friends through the MGHA!

Ryan Pakula – 2019 Essay

              The thing that stands out most to me about the MGHA is acceptance.  Yes, I’ve found a new sport that I absolutely adore; and, yes, I’ve made new friends; but the thing that feels (sadly) unique to this bundle of 150+ beautiful, amazing, loving people, tucked away in an inconspicuous town in the Midwest, is the acceptance that we all grace upon each other.  For lots of people, that acceptance is a beacon as it relates to their sexuality or gender orientation, but for me that hasn’t been the most significant aspect.

            My parents were the hardest to come out to, and it didn’t go well, but it was almost a non-issue for me that they didn’t really understand what it meant that I was gay (“No, like… I’m sexually attracted to men…..”).  I kind of expected it, given their educated-but-not-empathetic view of many other things. The bigger issues with them and others in my family and life has been the lack of empathy and understanding relating to my other deviations from their expectations: my disinterest in children, a job that pays as much as possible, my own car and home, and my anomalous values that I hold above those.  These issues still plague our relationship and make it an earnest struggle to feel respected and loved. But there are those unrefined or inextricable parts of me that are good, bad, different, odd, refreshing, or unsavory for polite company, and yet my MGHA family loves me as I am, sometimes because of and sometimes despite.

            And it’s not just that we’re a smattering of more progressive, young and young-at-heart individuals.  Plenty of my progressive and young peers have constricted world views and assign value to me based on my choices and lack of choices that they would have made.  The MGHA is more than just open-minded. I think it comes from the layers and layers of acceptance that build on each other. We begin with knowing we fit and fill all the beautiful parts of queer (and allies), and we accept each other.  And then there’s also varying levels of hockey ability, including people like me who came in as a wobbly-ass baby giraffe just hoping to not break bones on falls one through four hundred, and we accept each other. And we come from various backgrounds and currentgrounds and futuregrounds, and we accept each other.  And the more we differ, the more we accept each other, and that acceptance is built on and reinforces such a solid foundation that people are comfortable being earnest, complete, fierce embodiments of themselves. You read about it in tons of these essays – how people only felt comfortable with something about themselves or about sharing it within this league, or maybe starting with this league – and it’s one of the most amazing things that this league can help so many people come to accept themselves, to help them realize they deserve to accept themselves and be accepted by others too.

            I’m a very cynical person, and I struggle with seeing the good and not drowning in the bad, but the MGHA has given me acceptance and love and support and, annoyingly, an example of something I can’t be cynical about.  The MGHA means, to me, acceptance. I guess hockey’s pretty neat, too.